Ever had those times when you feel so alone, and useless? Ever had those times when you feel like no one appreciates you or your effort to reach out to others? Ever feel like you can’t fit in? Well that is just how I feel from time to time. In fact, that’s the way I’m feeling now; even though the new friends I made have the same issues that I do.
Right now, I feel like no one is appreciating my efforts to inspire or reach out to them. No one appreciates me, my videos or the comments I make to build them up or encourage them. I don’t know what to make of it. I wonder if I’m being too smothering or what. Only God He knows. I’ve seen situations like this that look really queer. I don’t know how to describe it, but I can say this much. I can remember giving all my support to one person, but the minute I needed someone to talk to, all Hell broke loose. Now I feel like someone who was annoying and a stalker. I’ve gotten the same treatment from others who are all supportive of others,but where I’m concerned, I’m so queer and hard to connect with that I’m just in the way. I feel like I’m getting little or no support, maybe because I’m a guy, or because I’m “mentally ill” and there’s a negative stigma attached to mental illness, especially if it’s a guy. Part of it is my fault, I must admit.
You see, I had a previous You Tube channel. I got loads of support when I had that channel.When I could talk on camera and give my experiences and how I felt. Then I decided I should use a different way that would be less depressing. I also wanted to use it as an inspiration to others who are going through the same stuff. It was then I discovered I could use something I love very much and have a huge passion for. Airplanes! I don’t know how I did it sometimes but after a while I discovered that it worked. I may share some examples, although I doubt you’ll find the relevance to me trying to inspire myself and others who are going through the same thing. I can’t really remember the technique that I used, but hopefully it’ll make sense to you. It was my rashness that led to me suddenly taking that channel down.
Now I have a new channel and I feel like I’m getting little or no support. What hurts is that some of those who I thought would subscribe to me haven’t. I feel out on a limb here as a result. I feel like no one understands me any more. I don’t know if my plane videos got old or didn’t make any sense any more. I’ve started to feel weird and fear that people are thinking of me in a negative light when I comment on people I’ve subscribed to when at times they’re not even my friends! I mean I’m getting new subscribers which awesome because we have the same thing in common; which is mainly our passion for airplanes. The problem is, it feels kinda weird opening up to them emotionally because I fear they don’t really understand; plus many of them are guys and for me, it’s hard to open up emotionally to guys. It’s easier for me to open up emotionally to girls although they scare me to death. Yeah, I know you’ll think this is weird and I don’t blame you. I can’t recall any other guy saying the same thing. I’ve had girls talk that way too.
Then there is this thing and I’ve seen it prevalent on-line, is this business of people saying “I love you” and all that crap. I’ve had it said to me and I was dumb enough to think it was cool that someone apart from family could say that to me. I started getting in the habit and that’s when things went wrong. I don’t say that to people any more. Sometimes I can’t say it to even my own mom! I’ve begun to regard love as a dirty word. I can tell you if someone were to say to me, “I love you” I wouldn’t believe it. I also don’t believe people when they say they care about me.
I’ve also had my trust my trust broken that way before, and as a result, I don’t trust people any more. I don’t even let people get to close to me. In fact, I don’t let people I don’t think I can connect with get close to me period. I can’t even hug people any more. It feels weird now if someone tries to hug me. I couldn’t even hug my own mom and she started saying I’d gotten distant and said how we were close at one time. We were closer when I was away at school, but it feels like the relationship got strained when I had to come home because of not renuwing some papers in time so I could work right after graduation. She doesn’t seem to understand that the environment at home and its surroundings is very triggering and is enough to set me off. I’ve associated with people who were every judgemental of mentally ill people. I remember full well when I was judged when I first became anorexic which then moved on to bulimia. To be honest, I was a little judgemental myself. Since I met some of you on You Tube, Formspring, Facebook which I deleted and Twitter which I’m close to deleting; and also since I got diagnosed with bipolar disorder type two and Borderline Personalty Disorder, I’m not any more. I’m just worried that I might become disconnected from my “friends”, but then I’m unpredictable. I feel weirded out about having to re-connect with those people again, and have to listen to their judgementalness of “mentally ill” people.
That again is something that neither my mom, or her family members understand. They think I should open up to them; which includes letting them pry into my life under the premise that “they care” I’ve been around them long enough to know that all they want to do is talk about me behind their backs. I remember when I wanted to do aviation instead of teaching that I got that. I got made out to be a loser and all those fun stuff.
They also think I should be able to function like everyone else,and even use other people like me to make reference to that. I feel that we’ll never be able to get along because of her not accepting the fact that I’m different. She won’t even accept the fact that some of her friends and relatives have said things that caused a mega relapse when I thought I had my depression under control. I mean if the tables were turned, I’d get told that I shouldn’t say stuff like that. I don’t know why all of that has changed. I don’t know if the death of my dad had anything to do with it or what. You see he didn’t believe in confrontation or just saying whatever to people without regards to how they’ll feel after. My mom doesn’t seem to care about that any more. That’s why I don’t think I’m compatible with any of my family. Even that and they way they treated me when I was depressed and eventually banned me from ever visiting them again, my mom asked me why I had to sleep in the airport the time when I missed my flight from John F. Kennedy to SeaTac. I was like, “Hello! Have them question me, I don’t think so. It’s like she just goes my instinct instead of thinking about stuff first.
It was the same thing when she she suddenly came up with the idea of therapy that I tried to say would be pointless if I had return to the triggering environment and if I got the feeling that my life was stuck. You see I wanted to goback to school for another degree so I could give myself more options. I wanted to do socioology which I thought would enhance my degree in mass communication. Would she listen to me? Oh no.
Right now I feel stuck. It even had to be cut short when I had to suddenly return to Jamaica. Now I’m freaking out as to whether I’ll be able to return to the US and it’s just making things worse for me. She still doesn’t get it. Talking to her is like talking to a brick wall. Then again, she could be right, because I can’t function. The way things are now, I don’t think I would be able to function in school. I don’t think I can work either, and my mom thinks so too. She said I should quit trying to apply for job still I got better. I just hate the fact that everyone else seems to be moving ahead with their lives and being congratulated while I’m stuck. I’m even afraid that I’ll be compared with such people. All it does is just enhance my suicidal thoughts I get from time to time and the sudden urges to hurt myself. Thank God they don’t last very long although sometimes I feel that way for days.
That pretty much sums up everything about my life as it stands. I feel useless, unappreciated and alone. But then, it’s understandable. Those of you who are trying to recover or are going through similar circumstances need people who can give you encouragement and not someone to bring you down. I don’t think I’m doing that. Instead, I feel like I’m doing the latter. I don’t blame you if you don’t want to be friends with me any more. I’m hard to understand. I don’t understand myself either. With the proper therapy some of you can eventually get recovered, even if it takes forever. My brain is just wired differently and I can’t predict how I’ll feel the next minute or why I do weird things or make unwise decisions only to regret them after. And the perception that I’m being clingy and constantly worrying about who wants to be my friends makes it worse for me. I’ve lost all trust for people in general and think they’re all fake and judgemental. Sorry if I hurt anyone with this statement.
Bottom line is that I don’t think I’ve been supportive enough. I also think it’s been taken the wrong way. I just don’t think I can do it any more. I don’t think I can leave my little world and reach out to people who either take things the wrong way or who don’t appreciate me. I also don’t want to be clingy or make people feel obligated to be there for me. You could give me all the pity in the world, but that’ll never change my situation. I think that the best thing I can do for you and for me is to just back off. One reason why I deleted Formspring, Facebook and am really thinking of closing my Twitter account. Something seems to be holding me, I don’t know, and it’s driving me crazy. That’s all for now. Sorry if I bored you or triggered you in any way. I hope everyone else is well. Take care
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BGcSpNWO42k
That was the second to last video I which pretty much talks about what I just said
Now, here’s one with me using crashed and damaged airplanes to demonstrate how I was feeling
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SfaGbY-agUM
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